Comfort Zones
Divorce & Parenting Coach
Supervised Visitation Specialist
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Bio
Hello, my name is Sandy and I am a divorce & parenting coach as well as a supervised visitation specialist. With over 20 years of experience in family law. As a divorce coach specialist is a supportive resource that will help guide people to make smart decisions during a tough time by providing motivational and emotional support. As a matter of fact, I do not provide legal, settlement, or financial advice. We, you and I, as a team, create goals and strategies together to move you through the divorce process with dignity, courage and confidence. The choice to leave a relationship or if the other party made the decision for you, will no doubt be stressful, and this is where I can help. You will be empowered! You will be encouraged! You will be forever changed during this process.
A divorce coach creates a safe and peaceful framework to help people clarify their goals, interests and outcomes pertaining to their divorce. A divorce coach will also work on communication and negotiations skills on how to best interact with a spouse. The goal is to increase collaboration and decrease conflict to reach a mutually agreeable outcome. Divorce coaches also add great value in areas that are normally highly contentious. For example, a divorce coach can help parents resolve visitation and custody issues when children are a part of the divorce.
Many divorce coaches focus on current issues, while others are more specifically geared and trained toward helping a spouse move on after a marriage has ended. Often, a divorce coach will make referrals to other trained professionals who specialize in certain areas where a person needs more help.
I've worked with many attorneys and parents navigating the roller coaster of divorce and found that my ability to listen to your circumstances, explain the process of divorce and mentally prepare you for meetings with counsel, depositions, court appearances or even reconnecting with your children are stressful and can be overwhelming. Your life has or will change drastically and you're on a river in a raft with no oars, but this is where we create oars that will work for you to navigate the water with the unknown river adventure ahead. Not everyone needs the same oars and not all rafts are the same.
My personal experience with divorce could have been better had I used the tools that I have today. Even though I worked in the "family law industry," my very own list of what I wanted, deserved or expected took forever to resolve because my head was not in the right place. I was overwhelmed, angry, frustrated, confused, conflicted and emotional. The experience of actually enduring a separation and divorce is different than assisting clients through the pain. My attorneys were great but instead of working so hard during the battle, I should have been focused on what my soul needed, and that was an understanding ear that wasn't judging me and someone to hold the mirror in front of me to help me to discover the post marriage me one step at a time.
Since moving to Oregon, I have developed a strong reputation with attorneys, mediators and other professionals to allow you the space to develop YOU. This allows the professionals the time needed to perform the tasks of whatever goals you are asking them to do....and YOU get to develop your post-marriage you.
Education
Paralegal Certificate 1989
Christian Heritage College, La Jolla, CA
Monitored Visitation Certificate 2009
Family & Children's Counseling Services, Inc., Sacramento, CA
Relationship Coach Certificate 2012 & 2022
IAP College, Princeton, NJ
Divorce Coach Certificate 2022
IAP College, Princeton, NJ
Skills
• Divorce & Separation
• Parenting Plans and Skills
• Monitored Visitation
• Dating and Post-Processing
As your coach there are 7 core values that are the foundation of my business.
Do You Need A Divorce Coach?
What are the benefits of working with a divorce coach?
What Does A Parenting Coach Do?
Parent coaching can help with a multitude of issues including transitions and changes. The child(ren) will be more of a consultation—brief eventually becoming more relationship oriented to create a safe place to discuss their concerns. The Parents goals can be broad, more person-centered, and slightly more long-term.
We will work on the languages of love to determine the best way to navigate the change everyone is experiencing. The five love languages are: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service and receiving gifts.
Divorce and Parenting Coach bridges the gap from where you are and puts you on a track to get to where you want to be.
Parent coaching can help with:
What is Supervised Visitation?
Supervised Visitation (SV) refers to visitation between a non-custodial parent and one or more children in the presence of a third party. The third party may be referred to as a “Monitor, Observer, or Visit Supervisor”. In some cases the courts feel it is appropriate to order “Off-Site” supervised visitation to take place in the presence of a third party. It allows children to visit the non-custodial parent or “visiting” parent in a safe, positive, stress-free atmosphere. It protects children from being placed in the middle of parent’s conflicts or other problems.
The children’s needs are paramount in making any decisions regarding the need for such supervision. There are also benefits to parents. It will provide consistency with a set schedule of dates and times. The scheduling and visits can be made by the neutral party (Monitor) and there does not have to be contact before, during or after the visits. Everyone benefits from the comfortable environment.
Monitors will carefully observe the visit and record observations in a report for the court. The responsibility of the monitor is to remain neutral, neither siding with the custodial parent or visiting parent. They should be prepared to testify in a court of law.
Why not use a friend or relative rather than a professional service? At times courts will allow “non-professional” relatives or friends to provide the monitoring. Many times this does not work. Well-meaning friends or family will agree to provide the service however soon tire of the regular commitment of time and effort. It is difficult for family or friends NOT to be placed in the middle and NOT to choose sides. It places a huge burden on the relationship and then creates unnecessary strife and stress. Once neutrality is lost, then the credibility of the friend or family member is damaged. Non-Professionals can unknowingly place the children at risk by trying to remain “Friendly” and unwilling to report inappropriate behavior. They may NOT know what to observe. Putting children at risk.
Benefits of hiring a professional company provides highly trained professional monitors that have completed a rigorous curriculum in Supervised Visitation. We provide professional observations, comprehensive legal reports and will testify in court if necessary. Comfort Zones Supervised Visitation holds a membership in good standing with Supervised Visitation Network. We abide by all rules and regulations. These are the rules and regulations we abide by:
Off Site Supervised Visitation assists off-site supervised visitation by traveling to different locations. Monitors will arrive at approved location and provide monitoring, observations and written reports. Pre-approved Child-Friendly locations can consist of theaters, bounce-houses, chuck-e-cheese type places, roller skating rinks and sports areas. Appropriate places also include visiting parent’s home, local parks or libraries. Places need to be approved in advanced by administration.
How do I register for the Supervised Visitation Program?
Call and schedule an appointment to meet with an administrator. Complete the Supervised Visitation Forms. Bring the "8" requested items to the Intake session.
Get in Touch
Call or text (509) 387-1262
Serving clients in California, Oregon and Washington.
Please email if you have any questions.
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